• Noun: activities associated with sexual intercourse; example: "they had sex in the back seat"
• Noun: either of the two categories (male or female) into which most organisms are divided; example: "the war between the sexes"
• Noun: all of the feelings resulting from the urge to gratify sexual impulses; examples: "he wanted a better sex life", "the film contained no sex or violence"
• Noun: the properties that distinguish organisms on the basis of their reproductive roles; example: "she didn't want to know the sex of the foetus"
• Verb: stimulate sexually; example: "This movie usually arouses the male audience"
• Verb: tell the sex (of young chickens)
I don't know what sex appeal is. I don't think you can have sex appeal knowingly. The people who seduce me personally are the people who seem not to know they're seductive, and not to know they have sex appeal.
Yet, if the most frequent sex and apparently the best sex is that between married partners who are faithful to one another, is there not a hint that affection might be an important aspect of sex? Even love?
I had to lie so much about sex, first when I was 15, because I wasn't supposed to be having it. And then when I got older, I lied to everybody I was having sex with, so I could have sex with other people.
Two things I do well in books are sex and violence, but I don't want gratuitous sex or violence. The sex and violence are only as graphic as need be. And never included unless it furthers the plot or character development.